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Thursday 21 April 2016

Feeling Lonely When You Are Not Alone

This may sound a bit silly but recently I have been feeling so lonely and down even when I am surrounded by people. I constantly have my boyfriend around for support and go to uni therefore there is definitely no need to feel this way. Yet on far too many days I just feel upset for absolutely no reason and feel that I have no one to talk to about it or nobody actually wants to talk to me. These feelings make me analyse my friendships too and have me questioning if they actually want to be my friend, its so stupid I know. Sometimes I think that I just need to share my thoughts more with the people I love however it already seems like they think I am a negative Nancy already. I must just expect too much from people, I always feel that those close to me should show interest in whats going on in my life.. maybe that is just not normal. Anyway pushing all the emotional stuff aside (although it feels good to write it all down), here are some methods that I use to cope when I am feeling this way:

Take a trip home

I find that feeling 'home sick' is always an excuse I use when I am feeling down as it cannot be pin pointed on anything else. There is nothing better than a trip home and seeing my lovely family. The only hard part is coming back to Aberdeen and resuming normal life.

Have a Netflix marathon

The answer to every problem. Need I explain more?

Watch cute animal videos on Youtube

How can videos of cute little animals acting funny or making mistakes not cheer you up? My favourite has to be ones that include pugs, especially Doug the pug.

Go for a walk

Go and discover a new route that you have never walked before. Walking somewhere different always cheers me up as it takes me out of my repetitive routine. My boyfriend and I did this and ended up at a lovely park the other day, cannot wait to go on more walks especially in the summer.

Text some friends

Even if it is just to ask how they are doing or to arrange a time to meet up. My closest friends attend uni in other cities therefore we do not get to see each other often so texting them is the ultimate pick me up.

Treat Yourself

Whether some food that you have been craving that is not particularly good for you or some new clothes that you have had an eye on for a while. Be careful though, every time I feel down I automatically go online and try shop but then remember my bank balance...

Have a good cry

If all else fails then just have a good cry. There is nothing wrong with it and it really does help sometimes.

Do you ever feel this way?


  1. Whenever I'm feeling this way, and I do surprisingly feel this was quite often, I'd watch either a F.R.I.E.N.D.S marathon or buy a lipstick or two. I think no one but only you can make yourself feel better in these situations! :D

    1. oh I would like a new lipstick.. maybe I will take your advice ha ha:)

  2. I agree with Sharmi above, Friends cures everything! haha
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

  3. I love a bit of Neflix as a pick me up :) lovely tips!
    - Ambar | Her Little Loves

  4. I'm so sorry you're feeling like this; it's definitely a horrible feeling to feel alone. I love all your tips though. It always helps to take care of yourself and make yourself happier through some me time. I really hope you feel better soon!

    1. yeah some me time is on the cards, might pop into Lush soon:)

  5. Hi, another thing that might be useful is a great workout, works for me every time. :)
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    1. I definitely need to start doing that soon!

  6. Posts like these are my favourite. Really personal, letting others connect and relate to you. It just shows you're not alone in feeling this way. Others here can completely relate, me included. I often feel most alone even when surrounded by people, so strange but true. I always find a little walk with my dog, a pamper to make me feel more like myself and a chill evening with my boyfriend cures alot of those feelings. Or just a big chat with my mum :). X
    Words By Katie

    1. awh thank you for this comment. A chat with my mum definitely helps me too:)